Before you decide to fill somebody's shoes and follow in their footsteps, check the sole thoroughly; what is it made of, where have they been, why are they where they are? It is your prerogative, and I would argue your duty, to interrogate and investigate anybody who casts assertions on your life through advice or otherwise.
1. Just because they couldn't do it, that doesn't mean youcan't!
Walt Disney failed often and was fired several times. On one famous occasion his superiors at a newspaper company told him 'he lacked artistic integrity' and sent him packing. I don't need to patronise you with the details of what happened next.
It's kind of fun to do the impossible- Walt Disney
Your colleague's, your boss's, your father's take on what is impossible, what is viable and what is a bad idea could be out of date by 20-30 years. Things change, rapidly. In 1903, most of the world thought manned flight was impossible, in 1969 there was a man on the moon.
Particularly with family it is easy to fall into the trap of just trusting their opinion and confusing it for factual information thus negating any critical thinking. By all means take their thoughts on board but please do some independent analysis, zoom out, look at the bigger picture and explore your ideas. Talk to people who are equally unorthodox, go to relevant events, be with entrepreneurial,maverick and forward-thinking folks who are just like you and feed off them for energy and inspiration.
Don't let somebody else's shortcomings determine your own boundaries. You are your own cartographer and choreographer. Draw your own map and dance to your own tune.
2. Innovation is Renovation
Generation Z doesn't just embrace change, we wine and dine it, take it home and fornicate with its feral nature. Gen Z wants to be at the forefront, leading the charge, not late to the party or worse - asleep while it's happening. One tricky hurdle I find with older generations is a stubborn, hostile attitude towards change, innovation or any approach that doesn't conform. At 22 I can only speculate on the psychology behind this, perhaps it is insecurity as their juvenile spirit precariously perishes with time and missed opportunities (you know, the 'what could have been' moments).
The point is that innovation brings about renovation or modernisation; through every positive change there is a new lease of energy, ideas and disruption that comes with it. The kind of disruption Generation Z gets a kick out of.
An older person's comfort, security and even ego will be tested by these things and can lead them to project their rejection of it onto you. Don't take it on face value, dig deeper, be independent and self-motivating.
Don't assume they know better, be brave enough and curious enough to find out for yourself.
All of our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them - Walt Disney
It takes a high level of independent, broad and critical thinking with a healthy dose of contrarian anti-credulity to hold an authoritative piece of advice to the naked light. From experience, I can tell you that it is a habit which blossoms splendidly into an addiction. This is about rising to the challenge of writing your own script. It's a little bit of risk and a salubrious sprinkling of rebellion. It's mental emancipation and renaissance mixed with reason - a recipe which renders your life infinitely more rewarding.
Just because the shoe fits, that doesn't mean you have to wear it.